I was delighted with the responses to my triad of questions requesting opinions on whether you should inform people when you muted, defriended or ignored them inworld or in the forums respectively.
I am afraid that the vast majority consensus disagreed with Lia's contention that you should tell people when you do so.
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I am watching and reading all this with great interest, it's almost better than a good old fashioned soap!
ReplyDeleteAs you know I am trying NOT to pay attention to the Forum but as you know I am a weak mortal and so like Caitlin I have been grabbing the popcorn and watching As The Forum Squirms.
ReplyDeleteNow having some additional, personal knowledge (complete with transcripts, pictures and screen shots) about some of the people who post there, the truly bizarre rationalizations that some achieve are so much more obvious. The word "hypocrisy" gets over used there but for good reason. From faux emotional trauma to being defriended and/or muted by acquaintances (perhaps not discovered for weeks by the poor, misunderstood and ill-treated dumpee) to the really high art of hypocrisy as it relates to social issues of many forms of abuse—the heights the irrational double standards are reaching are staggering. I wonder if anything will topple as a result or they will just continue to pile on in the claquing to the amusement of some, the edification of a few and the sheepish following of the majority.
The only thing I agreed with from "the other side" was a comment about you saying "woman scorned" as misogynistic. There is a valid correlation to replacing "woman" in that phrase with some other group. I wish you had left it out, the point could have been made better without it. However, in this case, it WAS a so-called woman scorned acting out as per the stereotype and one who has a long track record of taking her personal perceived grievous injuries to a public place to whine, to abuse TOS and good taste to assuage her personal self-esteem issues. To have her whine that you are publicly bringing your counter-points to her idiocy is simply...oh what's the word? Ironic? Hypocrisy? Oh what is it...? Maybe someone who posed as a female for years and has a skybox full of gender abusing BDSM toys would know?
I don't know of any cliches with "scorned" followed by any sort of group actually. The description was extremely accurate, as has been proven by subsequent events!
ReplyDeleteA few points:
ReplyDelete1) I read that thread right after you made it and I am amazed and amused at the length of it already, and on a weekend too.
2) The "by a scorned woman, as is usual in these forums" comment was accurate in that Lia's stereotypical response met the criteria of the saying. If the shoe fits, wear it, in this case.
3) The "by a scorned woman, as is usual in these forums" was an unnecessary addition and served deflect attention from the (what I assume to be) main point.
4) While there are no similar phrases as a “black scorned" or a "Jew scorned" the fact that if you replace "woman" with another group the phrase is much more jarring and unacceptable. Just because a phrase begun in a past era is now part of the lexicon doesn't mean it isn't now offensive when levied in a general manner against a group to which it may or may not apply to the individuals of the group.
5) I wasn't personally offended by the remark in the same way many others stated they were not.
6) I think that thread also illuminates that only a handful of people actually read the Forum to the point of following the personality conflicts in detail. Lia was sure everyone would know who she was talking about and whom you were talking about. Many have replied, "I haven't a clue who is being talked about." I find comfort in this knowledge.
7) You know you added the comment to, as Jolene stated, to poke the stick. It worked!
Meh, regarding seeing this as a soap...I replied in one thread and it resulted in getting well meant, but serious, warnings, in forum and inworld! Amazing what this discussion does to people. Should I be afraid or flattered?
ReplyDeleteCaitlin said, "Meh, regarding seeing this as a soap...I replied in one thread and it resulted in getting well meant, but serious, warnings, in forum and inworld! Amazing what this discussion does to people. Should I be afraid or flattered?"
ReplyDeleteYou should neither be flattered nor fearful. I would guess that most likely you were trying to be played as a pawn to select a "side". As such, I also doubt the warnings were well meant. Rather, it would be more likely they were self-serving.
That, or they are misogynists who offered the comments because they believe that since you are a woman you are too weak of mind or constitution to form forum opinions unaided.
(Misanthrope out)